When you’re single and looking, figuring out someone’s status isn’t always so cut and dry. Dating can be complicated enough without trying to figure out whether or not someone you’re attracted to and flirting with is single. But most people don’t readily admit they are available, so you have to pay attention to how they act, not just what they say. It’s easy to misread a friendly vibe as genuine availability. That’s why it helps to slow down and look for patterns before getting too invested.

If you’re wondering whether he’s single, look for the following signs: no tan line where a wedding ring should be, lots of eye contact, and a willingness to make plans and keep them. If he posts photos on his online profile and seems more open about his home, family, or friends, he’s probably not hiding anything. Pay attention to red flags to avoid getting hurt down the line. A man who is truly available usually makes that pretty clear. The more consistent he is, the less you have to guess.

This might seem obvious, but check the ring finger. If it’s lighter than the rest of his hand, he’s probably taken it off. Don’t let this be the only indicator, though. Some married men don’t wear wedding rings at all, so one clue never tells the whole story. It’s better to look at patterns than to decide based on one detail. A single clue can be misleading if you want to believe what you’re seeing. That’s why it’s smart to keep your eyes open and your expectations realistic.

If a man is interested, he’ll ask for your number and then follow up. He’ll make plans to see you again, and he won’t keep canceling at the last minute. If he’s seeing someone else, he may prefer a text-only relationship and avoid talking on the phone. Ladies, what signs do you look for that tell you a man is single? The real clue is whether he shows up in a way that matches his words. When his actions line up, you usually don’t need to wonder.